Today I received a rather hostile email from a person who works for a company that I won’t mention in this post. It involved disrespecting me and belittling my involvement in a certain event because I did not bring in an expected amount of income for this company. What bothers me the most is that at this event I played a great set, the audience was very much enjoying the performance and a good energy was felt in the room. However the person who wrote this email, who did not attend the event might I add, felt the need to strip away all of the positive things that occurred and boil it down to “You didn’t make enough money for me, therefore you are worthless”.
I’ll admit, I was pretty angered by this email. I felt extremely disrespected and unappreciated. However I saw myself putting all of my energy into this very negative occurrence when in reality, the event was an overall positive and productive experience. I had a great time, and I connected with people. And that’s what’s really important.
Sometimes in our lives these black holes of negative energy appear and seem to suck everything out of us. But we have to remember that we have a choice in how this affects us. We have a choice in how much energy, time and thought we put into these black holes of negativity.
Another important thing to remember is that everything is temporary. These feelings of anger will pass with time. Maybe even tomorrow I’ll forget about the whole thing.
I read a fantastic book “Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff” by Richard Carlson last year (recommended by my best friend), and one of its many messages resonates with me in this situation. “Will this occurence matter one year from now? Will I still feel the same way about this one year from now? If not, then this doesn’t matter and just let it go.” This event definitely does not matter in the grand scheme of things. The person who wrote that e-mail is fixated on putting a dollar sign next to every experience, and that is his problem, not mine. So now I’m going to work on putting my energy into something positive and move forward.
Any whoo, just thought I’d share a little insight from my recent experience. I’m sure many of those reading this have undergone some bullshit in your life. Hope this helped you even in the tinniest little bit.
Put your energy into positive and productive places. Keep moving forward.
Peace and Love,
Heather S. Rose
Heather Scarlett Rose 